I need serious organizational help! My life is spinning out of control. CG is 4 months old and I still haven't gotten into a groove. I find that the more structured time that I have, the more I accomplish. When left to myself with nothing planned, I am a disorganized mess. With no more French classes, I am leaning in the disorganized mess direction. Also don't babies change their schedules all the time just when you think maybe you have finally got it? Anyway, if I try to impose a little scheduling, I don't even know what would work best- the same wake time or staggered? same nap time or staggered? bedtimes? With D gone, there is that extra challenge with the bed bath routine as he helps alot when he is here.
Also, I can't find anything. I think that organizational genes are missing in my brain. I really would like to have a desk, of my own. Not shared space that someone else gets into but my very own space where I can set up a system that works for me. Instead I share the computer table with you know who and have a couple of baskets for my stuff next to the printer. This is not working. D has taken the desk as he is the one that does the finances- except when he's out of town, and then we have big problems because I usually act like the ostrich with my head in the sand and it has to come to the surface when he's not around. Then I am in a panic because I have no idea what my PIN number was in the US or how to access our US or French account online. This is not good. I was looking around at organizer people's blogs the other day and became very discouraged because that is just not me. I can't seem to get my act together enough to have things go smoothly. I so would like to get a schedule and stick to it, but I can't seem to figure that out. And exercise! How in the world can I fit that in with 2 children and already not enough personal time in the morning? So you mothers of more than one, and wives who work well with your husbands in managing your finances and your lives, how do you do it? I really would like to know...how to organize my time, and stuff, and get things done with 2 children at home with me.
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as i said earlier, we just need employees! either that or speed so we can work around the clock. ha! i have no idea what the solution is, but please know that you are not alone in this. it is really hard to be organized and get things done for most moms. i actually don't really like being around people who do everything right on time and without a hitch. who are they? and what kind of creepy stepford thing is going on there?!
a few tips that work for me (sort of): in a few months, you could start trying to exercise in the morning before the kids get up- it is not really possible with a newborn, so give yourself TIME and REST right now! and then when D is out of town, you can try a workout video or treadmill. and when he's able to stay around, you can walk/run outside. we have gyms over here that offer childcare, but i am guessing you don't have access to that. and we are the opposite of y'all with finances; i do it all. i think it is hard to have both people doing it because it is easy to think the other one has taken care of it. i wonder if you should take over since he travels so much? i never understand how anyone has the husband in charge of finances in the first place when the wife is the one who does all the buying (clothes, gifts, groceries, etc.) but i guess plenty of people make it work! so yeah, this comment is essentially useless to you. but i tried!
You use your friends who love you and know what you are going through. You call them, come to their house (that way you don't see what's not clean at yours) and jump on their treadmill while they play with your kids.
Mommyhood: It's a group thing and we're all in this together.
It will get better. Give yourself some time to adjust.
Rach,
Jaybird was on a strict routine by four months, Toot not so much, and Lydie was lucky to nap in her crib her first 6 months. With each child scheduling gets a little more difficult. I say find a good routine, but don't worry about the schedule (ie, naps don't have to be at 10:00 on the dot). It took us at least 6 months to get into a groove, and then they start to teeth and days are messed up again. It seems like there is a new tooth, or a cold, or something until they get down to one nap a day. That's how it is for us, any way. Lydie cut 16 teeth her first year of life! And she didn't sleep through the night until 10 months old! So after I weaned her, she had cut all those teeth, and she was sleeping through the night...then she had a good, solid schedule that I could count on. Until then, I tried to be routined, and just prayed over each day individually, some times I had to wing it!
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